Monthly Archives: April 2013

True Friendship

After many years of separation, one of my long-time friends in ministry and I took a walk at at convention after the end of our daily sessions. We talked about one particular subject when it became obvious that our views … Continue reading

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Respecting the Sufferer

Untrained and/or inexperienced counselors use several strategies to keep sufferers at a distance. They need to do this to remain “safe” from the pain engendered by what they hear. When they hear of tragedy, they rush to help, but as … Continue reading

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Counseling the Sufferer: Consider the Impact of Your Words

As a pastoral counselor in training, I said something to a psychiatric hospital patient that appalled my supervisor. He asked me in our group supervision, why I said such a thing. My answer sounded hollow even to me.  “Now, when … Continue reading

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