Excited as she felt to bear a child–after previous medical judgment assessed she would never become pregnant–Stacie Crimm also worried. She described to her brother Ray Phillips her severe headaches, double-vision, and whole-body tremors. “Bubba, if anything happens to me, you take this baby,” she texted Ray. That was in March. In July, CT scans revealed revealed her head and neck cancer.
Stacie frequently told Ray that in the event she didn’t live, she wanted him and his wife to raise Dottie Mae with their other four. After her birth, Ray gained guardianship. “I think she’s a miracle. I just want to do right by her and do what Stacie asked,” said Ray’s wife Jennifer. When he brought 5-pound Dottie Mae home to his family last month, Ray fulfilled Stacie’s wish.
I find it difficult to comment on Stacie’s self-sacrifice. I think, however, many people need to know of her heroic decision. May it lead us to choose life, to think of the future rather than of the present, and of others rather than of ourselves. Although Dottie Mae will never know her biological mother, she will know something very important– how much her life transformed her mother’s tragedy.