A Mother’s Tragedy Transformed (II)

Excited as she felt to bear a child–after previous medical judgment assessed she would never become pregnant–Stacie Crimm also worried.  She described to her brother Ray Phillips her severe headaches, double-vision, and whole-body tremors. “Bubba, if anything happens to me, you take this baby,” she texted Ray. That was in March. In July, CT scans revealed revealed her head and neck cancer.

Stacie frequently told Ray that in the event she didn’t live, she wanted him and his wife to raise Dottie Mae with their other four. After her birth, Ray gained guardianship. “I think she’s a miracle. I just want to do right by her and do what Stacie asked,” said Ray’s wife Jennifer. When he brought 5-pound Dottie Mae home to his family last month, Ray fulfilled Stacie’s wish.

I find it difficult to comment on Stacie’s self-sacrifice. I think, however, many people need to know of her heroic decision. May it lead us to choose life, to think of the future rather than of the present, and of others rather than of ourselves. Although Dottie Mae will never know her biological mother, she will know something very important– how much her life transformed her mother’s tragedy.


About Grose

Gordon Grose loves most to write, speak, and preach on the message of hope from the book of Job. Using drama, video, and PowerPoint, he has preached and presented this message of hope to churches around the country. Grose pastored three congregations 25 years, then served 12 years as a pastoral counselor in a Portland, Oregon counseling clinic. He now serves with Good Samaritan Counseling Services, Beaverton, OR. A graduate of Wheaton College (IL), Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, Brandeis University, and Boston University, he comes from a rich and varied background in theological and counseling training. In 2015, Gordon published Tragedy Transformed: How Job's Recovery Can Provide Hope For Yours, a book about turning to Job for hope after tragedy. If you have experienced life challenges or personal tragedy, visit his Transforming Tragedy (gordongrose.com) blog to learn more. TragedyTransformed.com provides a sample of Gordon's speaking as well as an opportunity to purchase copies of his book.
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