Grieving, but Not Without Hope

“If I die,” my friend had asked, “will you lead the memorial service?” “I will,” I said.

We said Goodbye this week. 250 people came from as far as Menlo Park, CA  and Seattle, WA. His daughter reflected on how, over the years, his hot Texas temper mellowed. A former student and friend lauded this Ph.D. university professor of history for his sharp mind. Although a Christian, his former student also said, my friend withheld his opinion on religion–unless a student asked. That exemplified his ethics as a Christian in a position of power.

At his memorial service, we sang some favorite hymns: “Amazing Grace,” “I’ll Fly Away,” and “Battle Hymn of the Republic.” (My friend was an expert in American military history.) Our pastor read from I Corinthians 15 (see 1/6 post), and I gave the message.

In our earlier conversation about what Scriptures to read at his memorial, my friend quoted: “Whatever things are true, whatever things, are noble, whatever things are right… think on these things.” I therefore preached on how the values of truth (vs. innuendo), nobility (vs. baseness), and right (i.e., how to get right with God) distinguished my friend and should distinguish us.

Family, friends, and former students grieved, but because of  my friend’s faith in Jesus, with hope.

About Grose

Gordon Grose loves most to write, speak, and preach on the message of hope from the book of Job. Using drama, video, and PowerPoint, he has preached and presented this message of hope to churches around the country. Grose pastored three congregations 25 years, then served 12 years as a pastoral counselor in a Portland, Oregon counseling clinic. He now serves with Good Samaritan Counseling Services, Beaverton, OR. A graduate of Wheaton College (IL), Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, Brandeis University, and Boston University, he comes from a rich and varied background in theological and counseling training. In 2015, Gordon published Tragedy Transformed: How Job's Recovery Can Provide Hope For Yours, a book about turning to Job for hope after tragedy. If you have experienced life challenges or personal tragedy, visit his Transforming Tragedy ( blog to learn more. provides a sample of Gordon's speaking as well as an opportunity to purchase copies of his book.
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