Transformation through Social Support (continued)

We need each other. As social beings, we need one another as partners in marriage, in work, in friendship, and in life. That is no more true than when we’re faced with a disaster.

One couple who survived Katrina described to me how, when they experienced their most negative thoughts (e.g., “God helped you before, but not this time”), they helped each other through. When one partner felt depressed, the other supported them. Even on rare occasions, when both felt low, their teen daughter challenged them to stronger faith. “Two are better than one,” says Ecclesiastes four, “because they have a good return for their work. If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!”

Job’s friends enjoy a deservedly bad rap for their counseling technique: blame the victim. They nevertheless stick with him. His wife, seemingly unsupportive early on, also stays with him to the end. The friends support him long enough for him to avoid suicide, to talk out how he feels, and, even when rebelling, to help keep his mind focused on God.

What are you facing alone? Are you telling yourself no one will understand? Why not find and use some social support?

About Grose

Gordon Grose loves most to write, speak, and preach on the message of hope from the book of Job. Using drama, video, and PowerPoint, he has preached and presented this message of hope to churches around the country. Grose pastored three congregations 25 years, then served 12 years as a pastoral counselor in a Portland, Oregon counseling clinic. He now serves with Good Samaritan Counseling Services, Beaverton, OR. A graduate of Wheaton College (IL), Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, Brandeis University, and Boston University, he comes from a rich and varied background in theological and counseling training. In 2015, Gordon published Tragedy Transformed: How Job's Recovery Can Provide Hope For Yours, a book about turning to Job for hope after tragedy. If you have experienced life challenges or personal tragedy, visit his Transforming Tragedy ( blog to learn more. provides a sample of Gordon's speaking as well as an opportunity to purchase copies of his book.
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